We, humans, are constantly changing. Although this is generally speaking a good thing, many fail to realize it or keep up with it. This causes much damage to relationships.
Naturally, we drift apart, and this sense of losing your partner and losing your connection causes a series of communicational problems that make everything worse and fall apart faster.
Luckily, overcoming this problem is possible and makes a relationship not only stronger but more erotic as well.
Know Your Needs
Our needs make a fool of us all. They disguise themselves in most unusual explanations we tell ourselves when the truth is too painful to face.
Understanding the true cause and the basic need that you feel isn’t met in your relationship is the first thing before taking any further steps, especially when it comes to resolving real issues or texting an ex.
Maybe the answer is that they’re always busy or that they don’t care enough about you – this is not something that can be forced. There’s nothing your partner can do when faced with such accusations, and it will slowly drive them away. Rather think of what it is that you feel, how that clashes with your partner’s desires and is there a way of meeting each other’s needs.
Keep Track of Each Other
This is something many fail to take into consideration or do it in a way that makes their partner withdraw rather than open up. But just as everything else, couples need constant updating. Being provided with relevant and up to date information makes you act in a more successful and valuable way.
Being vigilant and aware of what your partner is going through, what they need and desire, and tending to those things is sure to make you close and attuned to one another.
Pushing your partner to tell you what they’re up to just so you can feel satisfied will make them withdraw and not share with you again, because you were not genuinely listening. Knowing how to listen and really put your focus on the other person will not only make them feel closer to you but make you care about them more as well.
Cheer for One Another
We think we all agree that support is crucial to relationships, however, we don’t always recognize when that support is needed. This happens as a result of conflicting desires, and even though we feel like we’re supportive, we can sometimes envy or even fear our partner’s success and happiness.
Anger, fear, disappointment, resentment, it all builds up and projects itself through nagging and bickering. Oftentimes, this prevents us from separating the good from the bad and makes your partner punished for their happiness, ambitions, and desires.
Couples don’t just have to be there for one another when things are bad and when they need a shoulder to cry on, but they need to cheer for one another when pursuing their dreams, be happy for one another. The last thing you want is to base your relationship on mutual misery rather than mutual well-being.
Keep in Touch
This is somewhat of a different point than the former three but serves well to have you reconnect with your partner, as we are not all reason and sense, but of senses as well. This is especially true when it comes to romantic relationships.
Most of our closeness is based on intimacy, and couples that lose intimacy usually lose their connection along the way as well. This is not to say that physical connection is all there is to intimacy, but it is surely the most rudimentary and easy way of connecting.
It’s important to be physically close as to truly show that you are open to one’s presence. Tactile sensitivity, of course, plays a big role in sexual arousal, which is biologically predisposed to bring us together. But on a much subtler level, a simple touch, a hug, or just holding hands can make us feel wanted and loved.
Of course, every couple has some difficulties they have to go through, but in general, they are not all that different. These four principles permeate most of the problems that usually lead to separation and break-ups. And, as you can see, all of the principles start with you, your self-integration and initiative.
